How long does it take to prepare for a wedding? And a birth? Birth is one of the most important events in a parent’s life and yet very few of us prepare for the experience itself. Why is it that so many mothers put all their time into obtaining information for once baby is here, but very little into learning about and preparing for the actual birth experience? I blame ignorance and a blind trust in systems & processes many parents know very little about. The importance of the birth experience itself, is something many first time parents only realise after the fact. That is probably why birth plans are more common when it comes to second or third time parents.
Let’s face it – all you can focus on when you are pregnant is holding that healthy bundle of joy in your arms. Who cares how the baby gets here? I am the first who will testify that becoming a parent is far more important than how you became one, however, I have also seen how an unplanned birth procedure or experience can leave emotional scars for years to come if the parents are ill informed. Taking ownership of your birth experience can be hugely rewarding and empowering – whether natural or C-Section. That does not mean that you do not seek professional advice, guidance & skill in making and implementing your choices. It also does not mean you can plan and control everything about your birth – it would be ignorant to think or suggest that – birth can be unpredictable. It simply means you participate in your own birth and decisions by understanding what the options are and knowing your own preferences. It is deciding what is important to you and your partner and what are the small things you’re not going to sweat.
Planning for your birth is important. Understanding the birth process and options available to you is important. And yet, how many of us know that only clamping a baby’s cord after the blood has stopped pulsating through it, holds health benefits for the baby? How many of us know that in the event of a C-Section there is something called a ‘gentle C-Section’ or a ‘natural C-Section’. How you and your baby experience birth can have an impact on your emotional health, as well as baby’s successful transition from womb to world and although you can’t control everything, knowledge is power.